Male sex and the city

The average Irish man today is still repressed when it comes to sex. That is mostly true when one thinks of the traditional country booger culchie male. They would never discuss sexuality, sex, sexual fantasies, homosexuality or anything to that effect. Why?? Although holy roman catholic Ireland is going going its not gone. But that still hasn’t stopped them from having voracious sexual appetites. Look at the past when old bachelor farmers married pretty young virgins. But what of the new man born in the eighties and especially those reared in a non peasant culture, i.e. in an urban one where the consequences of sex are evidently seen in the form of unwed pregnancies, prostitution and sexually transmitted diseases.

Sex is a basic physiological human need. It is essential for good metal health and can help physical health. We know this and as we are designed to fulfil this need, why is there such a shame to it? For some there is a shame, but for others and the number of others is rapidly increasing in our cosmopolitan , Celtic tiger society, sex is a normal topic of discussion and pastime.

But do Irish men search for the one as women supposedly do? If we’ve learned anything from Sex and the City and Danielle steel novellas and the like, it is that women always do the searching and the thinking and the over thinking and the running and the loving, but are men today becoming more like that?

With the rise of the metro sexual and the pursuit of partnership, men are indeed becoming more like women of olden times and romance novels. And women today are more empowered and some are just as likely to have meaningless sex and one night stands like men. So what? Big deal, we all know this. But are Irish men falling to this new cultural dynamism? Are women too?

Let us examine. The Irish man living in an urban area.

He’s single. He goes to work, he plays sports, he hit the juice hard at the weekend with his mates and does sow with the hope of sowing some serious semen when he does some serious horizontal ploughing.

And what of the ladies? Again, positions are not reversed. They are the same , predators, and sex mad, its all about the next lay. So the men are still men and the women are now men in their attitudes and activities. Of course, its not fair to tar all with the one brush , but let’s generalise for the hell of it.

My point is that the lines are becoming very indistinct between what is acceptable for a man and a woman. Men and women are now becoming the same. - is that a good thing ? Is it all in the name of equality and that what is sauce for the gander has now only rightly become sauce for the goose. - because they are both the same now. The goose is metamorphing to become a gander.

What does this mean for our generation though ?

Well in the past, men have been the ones that are sexually frivolous and the ladies stayed at home. Not many complaints but now the ladies are out partying too . Does this mean that with the passing of time that marriage and the like are going to break down because a man can no longer have marry a woman who has been round the block a few times ? Will society itself implode or will we be too busy doing it to care?

Sex is a pastime used freely now by the ladies and gentlemen. Is it a bad thing or do we still inwardly judge the whores who are young, free single and slack ? And by whores does that mean women AND men? Should it ? Interesting thoughts.